The Girl With Eyes Like A Cat
You can also read the pages in high res from here if you’re having trouble with the text. I wanted to try writing a fairy tale! I’m not sure what the moral is or if there is one… but I hope you enjoy it anyway.
What is internalized misogyny? It’s two big words. It’s a lot of things.
Internalized misogyny is calling a woman “a bad feminist” because she wants to be a stay-at-home mom.
It’s when any person is derided for being “emotional”—because that’s what women are considered to be, and women are bad.
It’s when girls insist that they’re “better” than “other” girls who like pink and boys.
It’s when a girl is considered “stronger” than another because she kills rather than heals.
In order to achieve equality with men, some second-wave feminists claimed that women must make themselves as “masculine” as possible. They needed to invade places society deemed as male, such as the workforce and science labs, wear pants, hide their emotions, and among more radical feminists, exclusively date women. This movement came from good intentions—the feminists of this era were tired of being told they could only be housewives while men earned money. They rejected the notion that they needed to look a certain way to succeed in life. However, this resulted in total demonization of femininity and of women who wanted to express themselves in a feminine way.
In 1968, the group New York Radical Women distributed a brochure called “No More Miss America!” and protested the contest. Part of their demonstration was a “huge Freedom Trash Can (into which we will throw bras, girdles, curlers, false eyelashes, wigs, and representative issues of Cosmopolitan, Ladies’ Home Journal, Family Circle, etc.—bring any such woman-garbage you have around the house)” (McCann & Kim, Feminist Theory Reader: Local and Global Perspectives, p. 90). Contrary to popular belief, this group never burned bras—but their insistence that women would only become “free” if they rejected beauty products and women’s magazines ignored women who used makeup and other “feminine” products to express themselves. While some women felt empowered by the growing acceptance of female masculinity, the movement made other women feel guilty and alienated because of their femininity (Pilcher and Whelehan, Fifty Key Concepts In Gender Studies, p.69). There is no wrong way to be a woman, man, or anything in between—internalized misogyny is insisting that only “some” of us are right.
For a definition with 90% more jargon, internalized misogyny is the involuntary internalization of sexist messages fed to us by our surroundings, authority figures, and the media—for example, assertions that “real women have curves” or “real women don’t wear dresses”. Sexism is perpetuated when people who have internalized these messages reiterate them in their daily lives. Internalized misogyny is a subtle form of oppression, and leads to people hating themselves and one another , as well as women blaming themselves and other women for their own oppression. By directing our hatred at ourselves, internalized misogyny distracts us from addressing and fixing our own sexist cultures.
Text: change what’s within
This is so relevant it’s not even funny.
don’t sit in your pajamas and reblog posts about how you wish you could be pretty and confident, just do it. Get up early so you can do your hair and makeup all nice for school, flirt with the boys and let them come to you, say “thank you” instead of “no i’m not” when someone calls you pretty, fake that fucking confidence until it’s real, do you understand me? Now go own that red lipstick.
TAKE THIS ADVICE GUYS ITS THE BEST THING YOU COULD EVER DO FOR YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE
BEING COMPLICIT TO SOCIALLY ACCEPTED SYSTEMS OF HARM IS THE SAME THING AS BEING HARMFUL AND I THINK MOST PEOPLE MEAN WELL BUT EVERYBODY ON EARTH IS HARMFUL SO PLEASE JUST TRY TO WORK ON YOUR SHIT JUST A TINY AMOUNT EVERY DAY IF YOU HAVE THE TIME PLEASE
Alright tumblr fam! Here we go!
I have 14 days to raise $8,500 for top surgery. I can’t do this without your help and I really appreciate anything you can give! I’ve also created tons of fun perks (like handmade stationary sets! and zines!) which you can claim on my donation page right here:
For those of you who don’t know me yet, here’s a little more information!
Hey lovelies! I’m Myles and I’m a fem transsexual man hoping to have top surgery in March. Because of the unexpectedly early surgery date, I’m now rushing to fundraise and could really use your help. This procedure is both life-saving and life-changing for me, so please donate if you can! Every little bit helps and I am so deeply grateful for anything you can give.
Being “visibly trans” has made it very difficult to get and maintain jobs. I’ve been let go from two jobs already for being trans, and I currently work two jobs just to cover my rent. I’ve tried hard to save money for surgery and I managed to scrape together the $500 deposit the surgeon requires. But the $8,320 price tag for this surgery is way out of my range.
I’ve struggled with dysphoria for a long time, finding myself in psychiatric programs because of the depression and anxiety it’s caused me, and I’ve been blessed to find so much relief since starting hormones. Recognizing myself in the mirror for the first time is an incredible experience.
But I am still struggling everyday with having large breasts. I bound my chest for years, causing myself severe back pain. Now I walk around in the world with my unbound chest and receive stares, harassment, and threats of violence nearly everywhere I go. This surgery will help me to feel safe in public and at home in my own body.
I know it’s super cheesy but I feel like I’ve been in a little cocoon all through my transition. For me this surgery is going to help me burst out of my cocoon and finally see my wonderful butterfly self reflected in the mirror! Please help me make this a reality by donating and by sharing this campaign far and wide!
Thx for reading, you are all angels <3 <3 <3
Please reblog and donate if you can!!! Myles is so close to his goal with less than a week to go!!
30 Day Challenge // Day 23 // Something That Makes You Happy
I’ve learned how to cook since I moved out to California. It’s therapeutic. And delicious~ I garnish everything with a fried egg, and I never regret it.
This is great
The concept of monosexual privilege does not say that gay people are privileged or being gay. Rather, privileged for being monosexual, whilst still shat on by society for not being straight. Much in the way that the concept of cis privilege does not say cis women are privileged for being women. Rather, privileged for being cis and shat on by society for being women.
it’s surprising how many “intersectional feminists” are unable to understand that.
Thom Browne fall 2014 rtw backstage
THIS IS NOT THOM BROWNE’S, THIS IS NOT “LORDE-INSPIRED”
East African women (and probably other women from that region of the world) have BEEN dying their fingertips
Reblogging for knowledge drop